Gay Marriage: How Far Should Christians Go

by Eric Dunbar

gay marriageThe Supreme Court’s ruling to legalize same sex marriage in the U.S. has many Christians in an uproar. Gay marriage has been at the forefront of the Christian fight since 1971 when the Minnesota Supreme Court ruled “the institution of marriage as a union of man and woman uniquely involving the procreating and rearing of children within the family is as old as the book of Genesis.” The question is: how far should Christians go to get their point across to people who don’t want to hear it?

All Christians know, or should know that the first marriage was between Adam and Eve, but should Christians be protesting the marriage between Adam and Steve, or should we be using the Lord’s resources in a more resourceful manner.

Christian conduct is the real issue at stake here. The whole world is watching how Christian will respond because we are the only Jesus that they will ever see. Before I open the door to your criticism, let’s looks at Christian conduct from a Biblical standpoint.

Christian Conduct

A Christian is not just someone who attends a -stones. Christians are people who have accepted the Lord Jesus Christ — purely by faith — their Savior, and because of this acceptance, have the Holy Spirit indwelling in them (Romans 8:9).

Christians are called to live lives that are holy and pleasing to God (Romans 12:1). As a Christian, I will tell you that it is essential that we spend time in the word of God in order that we (1) learn how to conduct ourselves in a Christ-like fashion (1 Peter 2:9), and (2) understand that our fight is directed at our one and only enemy, Satan, the devil and not non-Christians (Ephesians 6:12).

To live a Christian life is to live a life that glorifies God by producing fruit (John 15:8), by which we know that we are disciples of Christ. The fruit that we should be producing in our lives and the lives of others is the fruit of the Spirit. The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). These 9 characteristics should be the trademark of Christian conduct.

The first fruit mentioned is love. Without an open display of love the Christian life is like a noisy horn or a clanging cymbal. Even though we display all the spiritual gifts mentioned in the Bible, and have mountain moving faith, if we don’t display love we are nothing. If we give everything we own to the poor, and though we stand against non-Christian antics to the death, but we don’t display love, it profits us nothing (1 Corinthians 13:1-3).

How far should Christians go in protest of same sex marriage?

Reverend-Rick-ScarboroughAs I talked with my wife over a cup of coffee the other day, I heard something on the news that shocked me to the core. The news quoted Rick Scarborough, a former Baptist minister and Christian political activist as saying he would set himself on fire if the high court ruled in favor of same sex marriage. But what he really said is, “We (Christians) are not going to bow. We are not going to bend, and if necessary we will burn!”

Reverend Scarborough’s words were taken out of context by the media. He later acknowledged, “I made that comment to paraphrase a spiritual song, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, in which the three were given a choice to bow to the image of Nebuchadnezzar or burn in a furnace. ‘We will burn’ means that we will accept any sanction from the government for resisting today’s Supreme Court decision. We will not support any violence or physical harm.”

However, Reverend Scarborough did say: “The preachers need to get out front; the leaders need to get out front, out front of these ordinary citizens and say, ‘Shoot me first!’”

Here’s where I beg to differ. Nobody has to get shot, in fact, there doesn’t need to be a conflict. Let me make myself absolutely clear so my words don’t get twisted. I stand firm in the word of God which clearly states that men should marry women, and women should marry men, and not each other (Titus 1:6; Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:1). But I also believe that just as we Christians have a right to believe and live by the word of God if that is what we choose to do, those who choose to be gay have the right to marry each other if they so choose. We do not have the right to stop them. God has given us all the ability to choose, for God Himself said,

“…I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.”

Understand me well; no one has the right to force people to believe as they do. That is what the terrorists do. They cut off people’s heads when they don’t see the world through their eyes. If we force people to choose our way, we are no different than the terrorists.

We are the ‘light of the world’

As I talked with my wife over a cup of coffee the other day, I heard something on the news that shocked me to the core. The news quoted Rick Scarborough, a former Baptist minister and Christian political activist as saying he would set himself on fire if the high court ruled in favor of same sex marriage. But what he really said is, “We (Christians) are not going to bow. We are not going to bend, and if necessary we will burn!”

Reverend Scarborough’s words were taken out of context by the media. He later acknowledged, “I made that comment to paraphrase a spiritual song, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, in which the three were given a choice to bow to the image of Nebuchadnezzar or burn in a furnace. ‘We will burn’ means that we will accept any sanction from the government for resisting today’s Supreme Court decision. We will not support any violence or physical harm.”

However, Reverend Scarborough did say: “The preachers need to get out front; the leaders need to get out front, out front of these ordinary citizens and say, ‘Shoot me first!’”

Here’s where I beg to differ. Nobody has to get shot, in fact, there doesn’t need to be a conflict. Let me make myself absolutely clear so my words don’t get twisted. I stand firm in the word of God which clearly states that men should marry women, and women should marry men, and not each other (Titus 1:6; Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:1). But I also believe that just as we Christians have a right to believe and live by the word of God if that is what we choose to do, those who choose to be gay have the right to marry each other if they so choose. We do not have the right to stop them. God has given us all the ability to choose, for God Himself said,

“…I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.”

What we have is two governments clashing: The government of God (the kingdom of heaven) against the government of Satan (the kingdom of the world). Jesus conveyed this message to the Pharisees in a discussion about taxes.

“Then the Pharisees went and plotted how they might entangle Him in His talk. And they sent to Him their disciples with the Herodians, saying, ‘Teacher, we know that You are true, and teach the way of God in truth; nor do You care about anyone, for You do not regard the person of men. Tell us, therefore, what do You think? Is it lawful to pay taxes to Caesar, or not?’ But Jesus perceived their wickedness, and said, ‘Why do you test Me, you hypocrites? Show Me the tax money.’ So they brought Him a denarius. And He said to them, ‘Whose image and inscription is this?’ They said to Him, ‘Caesar’s.’ And He said to them, ‘Render therefore to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s’” (Matthew 22:18-21).

Being a Christian does not give us special privileges in this world. The Supreme Court has ruled that same sex marriage is legal. It is now a law of the land in which we live and the Bible says that we should obey the law, not protest the law (Hebrews 13:17).

Understand me well; the Bible teaches that we do not have the right to force people to believe as we do. That is what the Isis terrorists do. They cut off people’s heads when they don’t see the world through their eyes. If we force people to choose our way without giving them the right to choose, we exhibit behavior that is unbecoming to the name and nature of Christ.

We are the “light of the world”

Brothers and sisters in Christ, be reminded that we are to be:

“…subject to rulers and authorities, to obey, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all men. For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another.”

The Bible tells us that God is love, and He does not force Himself on anyone. We, like the angels of heaven, were created with a free will. Unlike all the other animal life on earth, we can choose our destiny. That means we can either accept Christ or deny Him access into our lives. But there are consequences to the choices we make. We cannot expect to live like the devil and then blame God for judging us later, and the Bible says that God will surely judge everyone according to their deeds (Revelation 20:12-13).

The word of God teaches that it is wrong for same sex couples to marry. I believe the word of God. However, when I stand before the Throne in judgment, I want Christ to remember me for being a disciple and not for opposing Him as a Pharisee.

I would love to hear your views. Join the conversation by posting your comment.

2 thoughts on “Gay Marriage: How Far Should Christians Go

  1. Thank you for your God led Spiritual insight and direction through the Word of God. I’ve been militant in my thoughts and opinions since the Supreme Court ruling. Now since I’ve read your comments I realize as a Christian my conduct is at stake. God must be glorified through our words and actions just as He was glorified through the Acts of the Apostles. You have inspired me, strengthened me to stand and war against the enemy as I am empowered by Gods Word. I thank God for your encouragement.

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